• Ellen Goldfarb


Updated: Dec 16, 2018

by Ellen Goldfarb

This article may help you figure out if this is you, and if so, I have pointers to help you in your world. My entire life I thought I was crazy, because I am very detailed oriented, which means I am totally aware when an object has been moved a tad, or I am in a room and will remember after leaving the room what everyone was wearing and where they sat, or to notice what’s new around me. I also didn’t realize I was intuitive. I just know things, I don’t know why but I do. I feel uncomfortable when I am in a large group of people, it is almost as though I can hear everyone’s conversation and all I want to do is escape. Have you ever done research on the computer and the more research you do the more overwhelmed and frazzled you feel? Well that was me. The list goes on.

I have a surprise for you; these are normal traits for a woman who is a highly sensitive person. No, I am not crazy just highly sensitive, like you might be. There are ways you can make your world flow more easily and calm you down. I know, because I do certain things every day to keep my world calm and sane for me.

Here are some ideas I would like to share with you, so you can figure out if you just might be a highly sensitive person.

1. **Take a short survey to see if you might be highly sensitive

Instructions: Check only those answers that are definitely you or remotely you. Leave blank if this isn’t you at all.

__I am highly creative –art, music, etc.

__I don’t do well with change.

__ I am very detailed oriented.

__I feel uncomfortable by loud noises.

__I get startled easily.

__I feel overwhelmed and frazzled when I do many things at once.


If you checked 3 or more of the questions for yourself then you are probably highly sensitive. If you answered fewer questions and they are true of you, that might also indicate calling you highly sensitive. Not everyone is the same so you might be a highly sensitive person and only have one or two that apply to you.

*I am not a psychologist; I am a highly sensitive person and based the questions on what affects me. This mini survey may or may not give the answer that you might be a highly sensitive person.*

If you are interested there is a more in depth survey you can take which would give you a better indication if you are highly sensitive.

2. Create yourself an agenda for the morning and an agenda in the evening

3. Take time out for yourself during the day to relax and unwind

4. If you have a large project to do, break it up into smaller parts. It will be easier for you to accomplish and complete the project without it feeling over whelming for you.

5. Try meditation- I do transcendental meditation, but there are various kinds of meditation. This will calm your mind down and you will be able to perform better during your day

All the ideas I have shared here I do. They work for me. There are many more suggestions; I have just mentioned a few.

There are many more traits about being highly sensitive; I have just mentioned a few to give you an idea. It is important for you to know that since every woman is different not everyone has the same number of traits, one woman could have 1 or 2 traits, and another woman 5, 10, or 20. It definitely made me understand my world in a different way.

I would like to share with you how I found out I am a highly sensitive person. People always say things happen for a reason. Well this experience was meant for me to go to. Up until about 4 years ago I really thought I was crazy, but on October 2012 I attended a workshop, there were 5 round tables, about 6 people sitting at each table. We were asked to introduce ourselves to the people at our table. So this woman started, and as she is talked about herself, being highly sensitive and what that meant and what traits she has, I thought she is talking about me. I am a highly sensitive person! Wow! I am not crazy; I am a highly sensitive person. Boy was I happy! I put a big smile on my face!

Information from these particular books helped me, and execute this article:

Elaine Aron, Ph.D. “The Highly Sensitive Person/How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You.” The Highly Sensitive Person’s Survival Guide –Ted Zeff, Ph.D.

Copyright © 2016 Ellen Goldfarb, CPC All rights reserved.

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